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Ooh! I think I know one! Well I am not holding one right now but in the past I held quite a big grudge against someone.

I think I’m going to tell the full story and this will be a VERY long one!

Here is my gossip, I don’t really shout, like at all. If I get upset about something or at someone, I usually just don’t say anything and deal with it or I’ll say something quietly and try my best not to anger anyone.

However this person, actually got on my nerves so much that I actually shouted at them, they were shocked and so was I!

Basically at University I was in a video and television production degree. Often we had to team up in small groups and create short films together and do other projects.

So on a long project, I was with this group that before filming, I ended up doing most of the work for.

I ended writing the script, finding the actors, finding the location and writing the story board. I originally just wanted to be the camera women!

So then on the day of filming, I was told by said person that I should be the director and they’d be the camera person, the role I’d originally wanted and all these roles I hadn’t even wanted to do, but was forced into them because no one else had been doing anything!

I think the only one I didn’t have too step in for was the script but I felt like I couldn’t NOT step in as honest to god, that person had wrote it first and the dialogue they had written down? Just no! No one spoke like that, it felt so un-natural! So I requested to edit it, which I edited it a lot. Thankfully they did decide my version was better which was phew! Since I had been worried about how they’d take it!

But anyway after all this had gone on, it was filming day, since I knew I had done most of the work, I caved and let them be the camera person and I would be the director.

Now here is where our spat began. I wanted a certain camera shot and they just turned around and just said no, not even explaining why.

Not knowing what the problem was, I asked and while they did explain and they also said they wanted to do a different shot instead but I didn’t understand their explanation.

Usually I would have just given in and done in their way but I also think I was bitter over being pushed into the other roles by this person and not getting to do the actual role I wanted.

Like the script, finding actors, figuring out a time everyone could do, finding the location and doing the whole story board which took a long time, all of it had stressed me out a lot and being frustrated that no one had helped.

So I was like, well you wanted me as a director so I’m going to be the director and while I did compromise and tell them they could do their shot, I also said that I still wanted to do my shot as well.

I thought we could compare them in the editing and it was a fair compromise and to my surprise, they flat out refused.

And I snapped.

I started to shout which even surprised me and they shouted back and it became a yelling match.

I knew I usually gave in to other people’s demands so I thought just once, I’m not going to back down. And I didn’t, they eventually gave in to letting me film my shot and they’d do theirs and we’d compare.

But our story is not over yet! As part of our project was to do a presentation about our short film and even make a plan for an app, to do with our story.

So we all volunteered to do different parts of the presentation and they volunteered to work on the layout of presentation, which I thought was easy to do.

However before any of us could start our presentation, the layout had to be done.

So we waited and waited…and waited. Waiting for a text or an email from them sending their work over so we could start.

It was now only a couple of days until our presentation was due and so I started to text them and ask when were they finishing the layout, so we could get to work.

My texts became more frequent as the deadline closed in and eventually I suggested that I could do the layout and we could compare to see who’s was better but really I didn’t care about any of that I just wanted to start preparing the presentation.

However that coursed them to snap and they send me a large message about me being a control freak and I was kicked out of the group.

I’d like to say I was fuming or I thought, hang on that’s the job of the lecturer, you literally can’t kick me out.

However I panicked because the deadline was so close and ended up crying about it all. Looking back at it, it’s kind of funny, I’m usually the opposite of control freak and am a go with the flow kind of person.

But with the work I’d put into the project, I guess it makes sense that’s how they’d see me but I hadn’t wanted those roles in the first place, no one else had done them! And they had played a part in handing the majority of those roles to me in the first place!

I was upset and bewildered but stressed at the incoming deadline, I ended up starting to create my own plan for an app and my own presentation, preparing to stay up as long as I needed too, to complete it.

However after a lengthy conversation and crying, over what had happened over the phone to my parents, they suggested that I instead of trying to do everything myself ,that I just go and tell the lecturer what happened and get them to help me.

I did and it all worked out in the end but this incident with that person (After my stress and tears, because of that stress, had vanished) had me fuming and I had a hard time letting go of that incident, even years later, I was still got angry while thinking about them and all of that!

Now I’m completely okay but it took a while to get rid of that grudge!

Sorry this was so long! I did talk loads about this incident didn’t I? Ah maybe I am still holding a grudge 🤣

I’m going to have a quick look at other peoples prompts then off to bed, night!