A red flag? Mmmm, I think there are some personality traits that would make me step back a little and re-think my relationship with said person.
I think a main personality trait that I am quite aware of it when someone is a selfish person, that they don’t think of others.
Say for example, walking on ahead and not checking on a sick person in your group and not even noticing that everyone else has stayed behind to help said sick person out and you’ve just swanned on ahead, yes I am talking about experience.
Or say clearly seeing that someone is getting stressed and emotional by something you’ve said, yet you just ignore it and completely fine by making their reaction worse, maybe that’s lack of empathy rather than being selfish? Especially if it’s something that you don’t need to say, whether it’s true or not.
I’m not sure how to classify it but also what I think is a red flag is someone can’t admit they were wrong. I think it’s important to know when you have made a mistake and I have met people who would never admit that they’re wrong.
I think arrogance would come into that? I don’t mind a little bit of arrogance but if it’s a big personality trait then I’m out of there. It feels absolutely horrible when someone tells you seriously “I’m cleverer than most people” Yes someone has said this to me and my thoughts were, oh so you’ve met the majority of the human race have you? And immediate dislike.
So yeah, things I think are red flags are selfishness (It’s okay to think of yourself but if you do it ALL the time it can be a problem I think, there has to be a give and take with your relationships with other people or I don’t think that’s fair)
Lack of empathy, if you have to be calm in a situation that helps everyone out then I get it but if someone’s clearly having a very difficult time and your reaction is eh, who cares? Then that’s a big red flag for me. If you don’t help someone because you don’t know what to do or think you might make it worse, then that’s different from lack of empathy because at least you want to help, you know? I’d rather be friends with someone who’s does nothing to help but wished they could but doesn’t know what to do, than someone who just shrugs their shoulders and walks off.
A large amount of arrogance or pride where they think they’re better than others. If you are actually really skilled and talented in a certain area than that can and should be acknowledged but if you’re making general sweeping statements completely seriously, like I am a better person than most people or I am clever than most or something like that, just please no. I feel like big headed people are usually the ones who make stupid mistakes because they think they have all the knowledge and don’t need to check with an actual expect, who had proven experience and expertise.
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